Millions and millions of people have herpes so you are not the only one bearing this problem on your shoulders. Most people are sexually active so they get STD and you have nothing to feel ashamed of or embarrassed about. Just because you are living with herpes does not mean you are “dirty” or a bad person but a normal human who got a really common infection.
All about herpes
As a common virus, herpes causes sores on your genitals and/or mouth that can be excessively annoying and painful. It doesn’t lead to serious health problems so many people continue herpes dating making it a continuing activity. Herpes is caused by two different but similar viruses that create sores on and around your private parts, especially on your lips, in the vicinity of your mouth & throat and less often your eyes. By means of skin-to-skin contact with areas that are infected usually during anal, oral & vaginal sex and kissing, herpes is spread.
Herpes and relationship
If you have herpes, you meet people with herpes and you & your partner are associating with them. Eventually, you have to tell your partner about it; for your partner must know that he is entering into a relationship with full knowledge of your infection. By your honesty, you reduce the likelihood of your partner becoming infected with herpes.
Telling your partner
What people with herpes will say and how they say it is going to depend on his/her own personal style. Consider your attitude for it will influence how this news is received. Talking in a positive and straightforward manner about issues of herpes provides the best approach and maybe great addition to the information by forward planning.
Bring up the issue when you are not expecting sexual intimacy, when you are feeling good about yourself, and when you both have an opportunity to have serious conversation. The place could be anywhere you feel safe and comfortable that provides lots of privacy, free from noise and interruption (so close your mobile). Other couples opt for an open venue like a stroll in the park, so that the partner feels free to go home afterwards to think things over.
Realistic and unrealistic expectations
Give your partner ample time to assimilate the information and this is when you can offer good written information. Whether reaction is favorable or not, be flexible as making adjustment to a fact needs time.
The majority of people will react well for they respect the trust you demonstrate in sharing a personal confidence with them. By giving the right approach and correct information, being a victim of herpes is just like an irritating and sometimes recurrent skin condition – never more or less.
Regarding the relationship overall, do not let herpes affect the same level of intimacy and sexual activity that you both enjoyed. All relationships face challenges, far tougher than herpes. Good relationships stand and fall on far more important issues that are overcome by good communication, respect and trust.
Whether or not this relationship works out and your partner will accept you living with herpes, you have enlightened someone with your education and experience about herpes and correct some false insinuations about herpes that have caused so much damage. You have deleted the shroud of silence making it so hard for people to talk about. Finally, you ought to be congratulated for having confronted a personal issue in your life with courage and consideration.